So, a friend of mine had an interesting proposal from her hubby: he wants to have a threesome before the year is over. Now, for more conservative folk this might be a shocker but in the new-age of sexual freedom and all that, is it really that much of a surprise? So, I've not yet been married, but is this permissable behavior for a COUPLE?
As a single person you have no ties to someone you wanna parlay with two other people of the same or mix-matches sexes. no one would blink about it. Do the damn thing. But in a couple, especially a couple that's planning to be together till death do us part, is it really a proper thing to do?
Well, my friend is seriously considering fufilling this fantasy of her hubby's. One, because he is her husband and she wants to fulfill his every desire, but also because I believe she is afraid that if SHE doesn't, he just may with someone else and a hot-to-trot friend who doesn't care about monogamy or marriage or unions. (*cough* whores)...
Well, I can't say I blame her for having the fear and considering the idea. BUT, I think there should be some rules:
1. New third party -- not one of her husband's ex "pretend" lesbian (girl)friends who would give anything to get him in the sack again. Even if that meant strappin his new wife.
2. No kissing. If it were me, kissing would be out of the question. Yes, I am one of those weird non-sensical people who thinks kissing is more intimate, more passionate, more meaningful than the act of sex.
3. Test it out. There must be a mandatory test among all willing parties, for the common STDs and the Big Kahuna. Of course, safe sex is necessary, but this test still needs to be admnistered for oral (if not prohibited).
4. No further contact. I HEAR the biggest problem with threesomes is the fact that someone (in this day, EITHER party) continues contact with the third behind the second half of the couple's back. Supreme no-no.
Of course, my personal opinion, because there are so many rules, one should save the act of a threesome for booty calls and the guy/girl you would never take home to mama. Role play, keep it interesting by any means necessary without bringing due stress to your situation. The last thing you wanna do is get divorced over a woman you introduced into your marriage.
I just listened to my friend, since she pretty much had her mind made up... but I was thinking all of this... bad idea in the long run.
What do you think? Got a rule to add?
