(She) just hate me cause (she) ain't me! ~Busta Rhymes' character in Higher Learning
This will be a random ass blog post... about people who think they know, but have no idea. *tags it random before she forgets... OK, done* This post is to those of ya'll who don't have a clue. See, everybody (no matter your IQ, social and/or political standing, religious/sexual preference etc) gets MAD love from RBG. :)
I'm so tired of that phrase... I almost want to kill the writers of Sex and the City for ever coining the phrase for the jackass who then in turn wrote the book. I mean, do you REALLY think we women don't know when a man ain't feeling us?! *giggles profusely* We know, we just often think we can change his mind. LOL
I had a long IM conversation wid my homegirl one evening a lil over a week ago... telling her how well my conversation went the day before and how mm mm good breakfast was the morning after (whoever thought to put cheese grits with catfish is a genius!) and how I had my epiphany while speaking to my sisterfriend. But not until I had to listen to her whole sordid story entitled... Life Dating the Emotionally-Detached Brother. It's a comedy, it's a "love" story, it is pure unadulterated buffoonery. And we EACH have been there, ladies.
It generally starts with the set.up. It usually sounds something like, "I'm not looking for a relationship... right now." Now, while I do respect men who can broadcast this, it's really like, dude, I just asked you what we were eating for dinner! This is usually the first sign that he's not going to be exactly what you need... because we, as women, aren't generally proned to sleeping wid a man, just because. No catches, no strings, no worries. Don't get me wrong, we CAN do it. But for the most part we opt not to. But when you do opt to, be ready for the hardship b/c itz usually the ones wid so much potential that do this. So you're bound to fail. If you are apart of that lucky 20%* who actually gets the man to see your fabulous traits while you tuck all your crazy inside... cheers to you, doll... but that other 80%* ain't changing their mind. And it's been my experience that they always go for someone who's NOT on your level, at all. And sometimes it's a better level... live, learn and let.it.go. Cause K. Cole said it best...
If he ain't gonna love you, the way he should you need to let him go...
Ladies, please let's stop trying to hold on to these men who don't want us, don't want to treat us right, with somebody else and you think he coming back to you. It's ridiculous! I said last year that I was done trying to make some herb love me the way I deserve to be loved. I might give him some helpful prodding into all my delicate and intricate ways of thinking, living, independent-spirit nature, but that's about all I can do. Itz easy to pick up on all my not-so subtle hints of what makes me happy, feel loved so that I can be the best me to you I can be.
If I hear one more female say, "yeah he wid her but he thinking bout me tho" I will scream. No, boo, that's very unlikely. If he was thinking about you, he would be with you. Or at least paying you some attention. Stop tryin to do all these grand gestures, declarations, busting his windows out his car... it's not gonna make him love you the right way. Meanwhile, you're prolly looking over a cat who really does want to love your ass. "I know HE loves me, but he'll just have to deal wid it, if I can make you love me." Are you serial? Let's do better in 2009, ladies and really, really get down to the heart of the matter. And let that other crap rest. "You don't get the picture? The picture's in his wallet!" ~Lil Kim
If the Queen is happy, the whole Kingdom is euphoric. I guarantee you.
To my guys... I have a secret. When your woman is happy, you will always be happy! It is a little-known, highly true fact. It's really simple... you keep us happy and all else will be just fine. You'll get fed, loved, sexed like a porn star and great home life. I can't tell you what makes your woman happy... that's all up to you, but take heed and be well.
This is my last relationship rant post for a while... back to sunflowers and gumdrops! :-)
*Facts and figures have not been tested, proven or tallied by anyone who knows what she is talking about!
3 comments:
LOL @ the whole thing
Very well said, Sis. Sometimes it is the hardest thing in the world for us to accept that a brother just ain't into us, but we can't lie and say we don't know. LMAO!
And you're right, when the queen's happy, the kingdom is a beautiful place.
"we know, we just often think we can change his mind - true. and recently i went through this - and when i realised he wasn't into me (except for sex) - then i had this NEED TO KNOW - WHY! and why couldn't he JUST SAY THAT? why just stop calling/or when we talked, just ignore it. hmph.
ya, i tried (and i might try again, cause i'm 35 and sometimes i just need some..) - the 'casual' thing with this guy - and, it's hard - as a girl - especially if you like them. but it taught me a lesson - and i won't fall for that again. older and wiser now!
if he was thinking about you, he would be with you. Learned this personally last year - after many tears. And my other ex, confirmed it. He said guys get over it - once there's some other girl there, that's all they need to forget you. hurts, but true.
Thank you sisters for your responses... it's a true way to finally look at relationships. Once we learn to be real with ourselves and honest, we can really know what's out there for us... because we know what we'll accept. Peace and enlightenment to you...
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